WE’RE ALWAYS IN TRANSITION

“We’re always in transition…moving from one phase to another and feeling lost.” I’m sitting here listening to the Deadass podcast with Devale and Khadeen Ellis and this comment made by Khadeen and guest Britteny (@trapyogabae) resonates with me quite well. Every time I feel settled, something new arises in my life to create another level of discomfort. But how do I work through discomfort? How do I avoid surrendering to the weight of transition?

I wish that I could say I had the solution but I’m still working through the changes occurring in my life. Right now for me, the opposing factor is time. I’m working a full-time and a part-time job while trying my darndest not to neglect my personal aspirations including this blog and some other ventures I’ve started, and oh yeah friends want to spend time with ya girl too. I have a hard time compartmentalizing my thoughts so they all cluster into one huge blur. Next thing I know instead of tackling one thing on my to-do list, I’m sitting on the couch watching a Lifetime Christmas movie wishing I could return home and keep the Strawberry Candy Cane Festival alive and fall in love with the town hero that looks like he just stepped off the cover of GQ.

This morning, I woke up with a new attitude and decided to tackle one task at a time. I worshipped then threw on some Braxton Family Christmas and got to work. An issue arose and after hours of phone calls and holding back tears, it was fixed. I made an executive decision to relax and give myself a mental break before hopping into my next task. Still feeling overwhelmed, disappointed in myself, and somewhat alone, but I pushed through. So, I think that’s the solution. No matter how big the giant in front of you, push through. You may run up to it and get knocked down, but get back up again, “Skateman says get back up, try it again” (that’s a reference from the hood classic “ATL”). “Get out of here. We know how to skate!”

This is not a woe is me regurgitation session. That’s such a gross word, but I’m keeping it. I just wanted to share that a lot of the transitions we enter are things that we asked for. I asked for new ways to make money that would create an avenue for the career I’m seeking, and that’s what I got. Just because it included a lot of hard work does not mean I get to just give up and throw in the towel. Anything God presents me with, He’s given me the tools to manage. Key words, “God presents me with.” The first step is to have a relationship with Him so that we can seek Him when we are presented with an opportunity to make sure it’s what He wants for us. Because not every good thing that comes our way is for us.

Once we know that this new new *expletive* is from God (why not keep the references coming), we must ask Him to show us how to manage it. For me, it may be telling my friends I can only hang out on these days, or my family that I can only talk on the phone for this amount of time or telling myself I have to stay in the office and turn off social media while I knock out an hour of my side hustle work. Find your juge (I don’t know how to spell that word Tamar Braxton made up but it’s pronounced like judge without the “d”–much like my life–so that’s how I spelled it) or what works for you. Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t look for sympathy. Don’t even look to other people for the answers, Sway. It’s okay to seek sound advice but often the answer lies within you, wise one. Give yourself some credit. Hold your head up, stick your chest out, stomp on a $20 bill like Tye Tribbett.

Today a friend texted me a question and my response was, “Nah, I’mma do me.” So that’s the word I’mma give you. Do you babies, do you.

Welp, that’s all I got to say. I hope you were encouraged. I gotta get dressed for church. Peace!