You're Right Where You're Supposed to Be

As we grow in years, we can sometimes get hit with shoulda, coulda, wouldas. But what if everything happened exactly the way it needed to? What if you’re not behind, but right on time? Could it be that everything you learned there prepared you for what you need to know here?

Reflecting on my past goals, I realize your girl wasn’t ready. And now, with more life under my belt and a little more wisdom in my pocket I can honestly say that some of the things I prayed for, worked toward, daydreamed about— were not what I needed at the time. There was still so much to learn, so much need for growth.

It’s not that I couldn't get ready—but the process required time. I had to sharpen my skills to gain the tools, the emotional maturity, the boundaries, the clarity, and the vision to handle what I wanted. If I had received some of those things too early, I probably would’ve fumbled them, mishandled them, or walked away thinking it was a failure—but in reality, it just wasn't time.

Growth doesn’t always show up in flashy wins or big breaks. Sometimes it looks like a quiet no. A door that didn’t open. A delay that felt like denial. But in hindsight, those were the moments shaping me, stretching me, preparing me.

So here’s what I’m learning: everything I went through back there was a classroom for where I’m standing right now. And now, I stay ready so I don't have to get ready. No fumbling over here; only catching and scoring.

If you’re in a season of looking back with regret, give yourself some grace. That version of you was doing the best they could with what they knew. That version of you got you here.

And here is a beautiful place to grow from.

What are some life lessons that maturity has taught you? Sound off in the comments! You might help somebody.

-Renee