Check Your Attitude First

I shared in a previous post that I'm trying to control my emotions. It's so easy to get upset, sad, or irritated if you let yourself. Welp, for the umpteenth time, God showed me the need to control my response to things (I hear you now Lord). One of the ways I believe God speaks to us is through dreams, even the crazy ones that make absolutely no sense. So it’s no surprise that God would drill this message into my head during my slumber.

When I have a dream that I can recall the next morning, I try to write it out in my dream journal. Even if I have no clue how the dream can be relevant to my life, in more cases than not, once I write it out I'm able to receive revelation from God on its meaning. I believe that if I can recall the dream then most likely there's a message there for me. Welp, I had a dream that really turned me off (from myself) and made me not want to dig any deeper for understanding.

Long story short, I lied to someone and rushed them off the phone because I felt they were being extra and I had stuff to do. Me? Lie? Rush someone off the phone? I would never! Lol, okay, I may have done this once or twice with a customer at work, but that goes to show you that dreams really do serve a purpose. Let me tell you why.

A couple weeks ago I was enraged, to the point that I was shaking by the terrible customer “service” I received over the phone with Verizon Fios. The representative spoke over me repeatedly, told me he'd hang up the phone, and advised that I go with another company, so of course that's exactly what I chose to do. I mean I wasn't even turning up on him like I could have (inserts hand claps, “I promise you boo boo”) so the treatment was completely unjust. I followed up with a tweet of my experience the next day and the company reached out to me, yet all they could offer was an apology.

But once I got over my rage, I recalled moments at my previous job that I've been rude because I was having a rough day, or I didn't go above and beyond because I knew my manager would be irritated if I did so. Now, I've never yelled at a customer or shown any type of disrespect like I encountered with Verizon Fios, however, I had to check myself.

So I came here to tell you to do just that...check yoself! As much as we expect 100% from others, we have to take a true evaluation of whether we give 100%, 100% of the time. We also have to check our response to people who make us mad. If I'm boiling and you’re all fine and dandy, that's too much negative energy transferred to me. Walk away, chill, and leave that anger right where you found it (I take that same approach to shopping).

I encourage you to hold yourself accountable. We expect so much more from people than we are willing to give. Kinda like how you want that man to love you, but you're not really in love with him. You're just in love with the idea of being in love. Okay, that's enough straying from the topic.

Give yourself some credit. You do have self-restraint. The key to your mental peace is in your hand. You better use that thing!

Comment below with your tactics for avoiding blow ups and unnecessary stress. What have you had to check yourself on lately? Let's talk about it. Let's get better!

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